Worried Your Child Doesn't Have Many Friends?

Managing an 8-year-old with ADHD, anxiety, and autism is a bit like directing a movie where the main character improvises a lot. What you have is a high-energy kid who just needs some navigation.

Personal Space Coaching

As a child, figuring out boundaries can be as tough as tying shoelaces with one hand. Try something simple like a hula hoop or Simon Says with space-related instructions to show what personal space looks like. Think of it as their superhero force field. Only special guests can step inside!

Regarding team sports, the no-go zone is clear. And that's okay! With a kid who prefers the road less traveled by, encourage individual sports. How about martial arts? They teach discipline and self-control (handy for those who tend to 'hit'), and practice sessions are often spaced out enough not to overwhelm.

Making Friends Not Foes

Guide him in friendly chats with questions that get him talking about his interests. It’s about giving the tools to start conversations that can lead to friendships.

Small friend groups can be a game-changer for kids who feel swamped in big crowds. Group therapy might seem daunting, but it's a perfect place for practice. Safe and structured, it can teach them strategies to navigate social waters with less stress.

Encourage playdates or one-on-one time with classmates who share their interests. Maybe a Minecraft build-off or a cartoon trivia game? These moments let your child shine without the pressure of a crowd.

Confidence Building

Confidence isn't something one just has – it's built brick by brick. Celebrate the small victories with your son or daughter. Finished a tough book? That's a win. Rode his bike faster than last time? Another win. These build up over time.

The trick is to encourage activities that build confidence solo before nudging them toward group dynamics gently. Starting with activities in his or her comfort zone, like bike riding or one-on-one playdates, is the way to go. There's a time and a place for teamwork, and they'll find it when they’re ready.

Recognize and praise the good. Caught him being calm or kind? Highlight that! Positive reinforcement can shift self-image from "mean" to "mighty."

This post is inspired by Reddit user PsychologicalSalad10’s question

DISCLAIMER: Our newsletter is purely educational and meant to help guide you through the maze of parenting teens and tweens. Every child is unique, so please consider your own circumstances and maybe chat with a professional if you need specific advice. Stay curious and keep learning!